HEALING IN YOUR CAVE

I have a little visual to share, stay with me really quick lol. 

Imagine you’re in a cave. Exploring by yourself and trying to uncover jewels but it’s pitch dark. And you have no shoes, no light. After navigating for a while you’ve used your own knowledge and awareness to find a few gems but it’s hard. You’re get frustrated and stumble into all kinds of rocks on the ground and run into walls. Like you’re roaming around aimlessly just trying to get by. Reactively instead of proactively. 

Then after so much suffering on your own, you have a blessed opportunity to bring a partner in the cave with you. They’ve never explored this particular cave but they’re trained to navigate them. They offer you a few tools, a few suggestions and your collaboration with them really starts to help you. Each success makes you a little more comfortable and willing to keep going. You start to find real diamonds. 

Eventually after committing to the work of the cave, you’ve been able to cop some shoes and a flash light. You start to feel more capable of maneuvering through this cave. Lighter. You have more joy and the cave starts to make so much more sense to you. You accept it and it feels like home. You even start to love it. 

This is the analogy that my therapist shared with me this week after discussing all of the recent breakthroughs I have had (she’s the analogy queen!). 

THIS IS HEALING. In your mind and in your body. It’s crystal clear that we need assistance and consistency on this healing journey. We cannot do it in isolation or without a deep commitment. 

Money itself cannot buy your healing.  And no one can give it to you. It’s YOUR mind. YOUR body. YOUR emotions and YOUR experiences. Your reprogramming, understanding and acceptance. No matter who you are in this world or what position you’ve gotten yourself to, healing is something you can’t control or manipulate. And if you avoid it, it only creates more authentic suffering as you try to live. You have to find your commitment and work at it. Chipping away little by little until you start to hit the big and lasting breakthroughs. You have to choose it over and over again. And when you start to see and feel the real freedom of it, it’s a joy and peace that is unlike anything conditional. 

I FEEL SO FREE at this moment in my life. Finally. Having the biggest breakthroughs through the healing work I’ve been doing. Shackles that have been on me for so long have fallen away.

I’m so grateful for therapy. And I am even more proud of myself. When the singer said “a change is gonna come”, baby that is so real. One day, things just start to feel different. You think differently, you choose differently. And you understand the WHYs of your thoughts and of your past. 

I wish beautiful healing to you. The courage to navigate your cave rather than choosing to stay trapped in one small corner because it feels “safer”. You deserve an expansive and beautiful life. We didn’t have a choice in some of the cards that life has dealt us but we do have a choice to do the work that releases us. That frees us. Consistent misery, fake happiness and a settling contentment has no place in our lives. 

You have a choice. 

SHANI