YOU ARE NOT LOST...

Choosing not to do the thing doesn’t guarantee safety. 

Choices made from fear often create more fear. 

I was listening to a guided meditation by my fav and I felt called OUT. I had been sitting on the launch of a new service to add to my umbrella of things and couldn’t figure out why I kept procrastinating to just release the information to my network. I had done the work and everything was ready. 

After listening to the meditation and being real with myself, I realized I had some fear present. 

I want to share some of the gems from Sarah Blondin’s “YOU ARE NOT LOST, YOU ARE AFRAID OF WHAT YOU KNOW” because I believe many of us are sitting with something - a desire, a dream, a vision, something we want - and we keep claiming we don’t know what to do when we really are just afraid. If we are honest, we don’t need more information or to figure anything else out, we just need to face the fear. 

Sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that it feels rational to wait and we end up choosing never to go. I’m now adding to my prayers “show me how I’m blocking myself from following through with what I already know”

Sarah says, the dream doesn’t have to be big. It can be a quiet insistence that wants to bring you closer to your own life. It can be a simple routine change or a piece of joy that you want. Those small insistences often turn into long term refusals, causing us to live slightly above or beside the life that is meant to be ours to live. YEARS CAN PASS, y’all. 

Life has a way of asking for what we aren’t fully comfortable giving. 

We fear that doing the thing will cost us more than we can give. Doing can be hard and feeling can be even harder. We’re not always willing to break ourselves open and to give that much to our own life. 

But do you want to remain 100% comfortable in what you know or do you want to evolve and live the life you are being called to live? 

Sometimes what we really fear is contact. Somewhere we learned that to lean fully into life, to embody what we feel called toward, we risk hurt and disappointment and sometimes even betrayal. There is a real fear of not being fully met so it makes sense that we would rather stand at the threshold and call it uncertainty. To call it waiting. But really we know that we are only avoiding things as a way to guard our hearts. 

Here’s the thing… we sit and just stay wondering about the things that we want. There’s something strangely safe about remaining in inquiry. As long as we’re just wondering, we’re not yet accountable to act. If we can stay in our dreaming place, we do not have to actually risk finding anything out. The ongoing wondering becomes a way of hiding, a form of avoidance. While the movement that requires embodiment, just waits and waits. 

Our dream hovers above us instead of being drawn down into the body. To dare to bring what we want forward is one of the most vulnerable acts a human can make. It is to bring into the world something you hope will be loved and received. That’s scary! 

But in our unwillingness to change or be changed, we erode small parts of ourselves one by one. 

What stuck with me was Sarah saying:

• The dream would not be in your eye if it were not yours to tend. 

• It would not make itself known if it wasn’t being asked of you. 

• We do not see the dream by accident, we see it because we are capable of bringing it into form.

Somewhere in the room with you and this dream there is a small obvious step you already know is yours to take but are maybe refusing. 

There’s a good chance you are telling yourself you cannot see or hear the next step and perhaps you really can. The door is quiet and close to you and to open it all you have to do is admit that you are afraid, not lost. 

You are cautious but not off course. 

You are doubting but not forsaken. 

You are shaking but not without footing. 

You are hesitant but not without heart. 

To tell the truth is to take the hand of something that will walk through the door with you. 

So the vow is that we will not call ourselves lost when we really are just afraid. We can call it by its name. And then even trembling, we can begin. 

So with that all being said, I decided to become officially certified to plan travel! I’m really excited to push my purpose forward in helping folks prioritize themselves and truly experience all this beautiful life has to offer us. No fear. No postponing joy. Fully intentional. 

Through an exclusive travel program, I have access to 1000s of travel perks + rates, so feel free to check in with me for a simple hotel reservation rate or I can plan a fully baked travel itinerary for you. Either way, hit me up as needed and feel free to share with your peeps! 

You can find more information at shanicarter.com/travel. 

I hope this touched the perfect nerve for you to make that small and obvious step on something you’ve been needing to make a move on. Again, whether simple or big. 

You are likely not lost, probably just sitting on some fear. 

SHANI